I have lived with dogs most of my childhood. Thinking back they were the ones I turned to when I was bored, sad or curious. I miss the dogs that grew with us back home in Zambia. They were definitely anxiety prone, aggressive dogs that were very protective of the family and their food. These … Continue reading I Will Have You One Day
I have been avoiding a few movies or shows that highly address VERY REAL struggles of a Black character. I vicariously live in them and what they are experiencing are things I have also experienced. It's more apparent when I watch shows like Insecure, Dear White People and Queen Sugar. They are great shows! There … Continue reading “Insecure” Gets Me Nervous
You know when you really love and trust someone, and that person betrays you? Well, that’s not exactly what happened to me. What I’ll talk about was actually less harmful, but harmful nonetheless. My love was for books and movies, and the betrayal came from the authors, actors and/or creators. These people, who created amazing … Continue reading The Fan with Trust Issues
I feel overwhelmed with the amount of events that happened over the course of 2018 to 2020. Specifically with how resilient I feel after these events. I graduated from college after these events. I graduated from college after 5 years running around like a headless chicken asking my body to stop and trust the process. … Continue reading 2020 Tested My Resilience
I don’t think I realized the importance of having a routine to my daily life until this pandemic basically turned my daily plans upside down. Maybe it doesn’t help that I’m unemployed right now. Nor does it help that I haven’t fully transitioned out of my college life, which consisted solely of eating, studying, working, … Continue reading What to do, what not to do? The COVID question.
In a span of a year, I stopped writing because I had other priorities going on in my life that affected my creativity, deserting my hobbies. It was also within this time frame when I decided to stop going to therapy. Because I learned the tools I needed to live as fully as I can … Continue reading Writing Again
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s book Americanah about love, loss and identity really spoke my story and my feelings. The premises of it is a young woman immigrating to the US leaving her home and her love. A young man’s immigrating to the UK looking for his love, freedom and identity. Their stories entangled in a web … Continue reading Americanah By Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
This page is an addition to my plentiful story, I loved reading books and it really hard a strong hold on me when parents naturally censored TV shows and music. I instead used books to learn about all the things they were shielding me from. Relationships, violence, sex and other PG16 things. Some of you … Continue reading I Want To Read More
Good things really do come slowly and according to my partner, ALSO when you work hard to achieve it. And it finally happened to me! I have a full time employment. On top of that, it has the potential of being my first step into family therapy profession. The location is great and it will … Continue reading I’m Back and I’m Better
Learning about the many parenting styles, I found it difficult to recognize where the families I surround myself in would be placed. Being an immigrant from a family whose chrono-system was affected by the Rwandan Genocide, their parenting style seem to be a mixture of traditional and authoritarian parenting. Which, in my opinion is fascinating, … Continue reading Children of Authoritarian Parents
